True Confession
I hocked my old wedding ring set.
My ex-husband and I separated September 9th, 1999. (Ironically, the date that all of those computers were supposed to screw up due to an end a file error: 9.9.99?) It had been a long time brewing and I had more of it than I could take.
One of the things he had screwed me over on was to not pay the power, cable or phone bills for the last two months. I had to pay these, almost immediately after I gave him the boot, out of my own money. (Let’s just say that someone was eating 10-for-a-$1 Ramen Noodles and drinking water for a few weeks.)
I knew that after all of the little “revelation sessions” I had after we split up that there would never be a reconciliation of any kind. I was through with him. I was hurt deeply. I was mad. I was sick every time I looked and my wedding/engagement ring set. I needed closure. I was broke.
I drove down to a neighboring town’s pawnshop and sold my rings and the guitar that he bought me as a “Oh-I’m-so-sorry” present for $350. I felt better. I got to restock the refrigerator and the chocolate stash. More than anything, it was one less reminder sitting around the house snickering at me every time I passed by it, ‘You put up with all of his shit for how long?‘
This past February he e-mailed me telling me that this girl that he met the month before is the love of his life and that he wants to marry her. He then asks if he can have my rings back to give her as a token of his affection.
I first expressed my sympathy for her, stating that I couldn’t imagine what she could have done to be the target of such a cruel joke of fate. I then told him that I had pawned the rings. I relished the audible gasp in my head as I imagined his response and hated that I couldn’t hear over the phone or see his face turn from a light tan into something resembling a beet with a goatee and glasses.
He fired back an e-mail saying that he couldn’t believe that I done such a heartless thing and that I was responsible for giving him the money that I got from my sale.
I replied, again, telling him that I would be more than glad to give him that money if he would give the money that he spent instead of paying our power, cable and phone bills for the last two months of our union.
Funny … he never replied. 😉
Good for you, Swirly!! No regrets!
I love those Ramen noodles – especially in nachos!
It must’ve felt great to fire back that email!
Small but satisfying balance of kharma there, though I still think he owes you bigtime.
You know what? I really pity the girl. To think she had to live with this kind of person (yucks)
God, he’s supposedly in love with this girl, and yet he wanted to give her YOUR rings?? I personally wouldn’t want anything from my boyfriend’s ex and would be insulted if he tried to give me something as personal as rings. You did the right thing.
Ummmmmmmmm lemme just say he has absolutely no class to begin with if he’s going to ask you for the rings back. You deserve to have them or the monetary value of them for putting up with him for so long. You’d think he’d want to give the love of his life a token that represents his feelings for HER…not YOU. Sorry but…what a dork! I still have my wedding set in my jewelry box. All three thousand dollars worth…Hmmmmm LOL
You could have sent him a counterfeit $10!!
heh heh….good one! i tried to pawn off mine too…..but that is a different story and i need to go to the page store and get more pages…
nice to meet you!! 🙂 ……… ~pink~
kudos. It’s funny, those types never realize what jerks they are.
It’s a sign of his contempt for your and her feelings that he dared ask for the return of the rings. What a jerk!
Don’t you just love Mae West?
Revenge is sweet.
the rings were yours to do whatever you wanted with. As for heartless, his phone call was off the page, out of line.
Wow, what a sleeze…..he sounds very like an ex (boyfriend, not husband) of mine. He proposed to another girl 3 months after we broke up….then told me he “loved her, but would always be IN love with me”. EW. I wonder if he ever told HER that?????
Thank God for Ramen Noodles, Chocolate, Drinking Water and Pawn Shops. (Especially Ramen Noodles!)
that PIg Fucker!!
can i have his email addy?
That dude is the lowest form of scum! I definitely feel sorry for the poor girl he’s with now, and I’m happy for you not having to deal with him anymore. If for some reason my wife and I ever split up (hopefully that will never happen – at least it won’t by my actions) I would never ask her for the rings I got her when we got married or will get her in the future- they are HERS! BTW – ramen noodles and pawn shops rule.
AAAHHH 10 FOR A 1.00 RAMEN NOODLES, I THINK WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE AT ONE TIME OR ANOTHER I MADE MY OWN COOK BOOK 101 WAYS TO EAT CHEAP WHEN YOUR EX SCREWS YOU!!!
Some people just don’t get it…
The unmitigated GALL of such a cruel bastard… grrrrrr… fries me just to think about it.
“honey, i love you, and i want to spend the rest of my life with you. and i can think of no better way to show you my love than to give you these rings, the wedding and engagement rings i gave to my first wife… that one didn’t work out, but… well, i’d like to think the rings aren’t jinxed, mostly because i didn’t have to pay for them again…”
What a DICK.
The Duchess
HAHA! I hate this saying but “you go girl!” I pawned mine too to pay off bills he left me with! OH yeah, I was married once. Heh. That’s hilarious. What a low class bastard though for wanting to recycle something like that. It’s my opinion that if you get remarried, you get something with no history attached (unless it’s a family heirloom of course), especially not negative history. Good thing you gave him that swift kick in the nutsack. I, too, was sorry I couldn’t see the look of sheer horror or argue over the phone about it!
*snorts at the duchess and leadcrow* 😀